How to be the 'light' in someones life
Sensational Personality Traits of a Wonderful Person
"If you cannot find the sunshine, be the sunshine"
A good friend of mine once said that to me, as I fawned over her presence – for the millionth time.
Let’s call these types of people “rays”. As in, “rays of sunshine”.
Quick description of someone who is a 'RAY'
Whatever you are doing, they usually make it better. They typically bring the life of the party with them – but not for typical reasons that you think.
Sometimes they aren’t who you think they would be. I am not talking about that extrovert at the party who demands the attention of the room. Although, it could be that person but more often than not, it’s the person who doesn’t have to do anything extra.
However, I am talking about that person who you often find yourself easily, gravitating towards. That person that makes you feel safe and glad to be around. Rays pull you in with every word, and make you feel warm in your heart. Cared for. Accepted. Appreciated.
These people typically have a certain aura around them that emits light.
As a result, something about them is calming, and makes you feel like you were meant to know them. You were meant to hang on to them.
All my life I have met these people at different stages of my life. Each time they leave me more and more amazed. I found myself wanting desperately to be close to them – but above all, be like them.
Here are some traits that a ‘Ray processes that I’ve learned throughout the years:
1. They are Transparent
Rays are genuine. They stay true to their feelings and share with you how they truly are.
Oftentimes, people might have a bad day or are moody and lash out while Rays accept how they are feeling, and they may let you in and tell you about what is going on – OR they choose not to, and decide to just be. Either way, they would never make you feel like it’s your fault or put their emotion ON to you. They only share with you.
2. They love to see others happy
For instance, you can tell when you’ve met a Ray because they put what would make you happy at the top of their list. It’s as if they learn what your love language is and then they act on it. Whether this is through acts of service, affirmations, quality time, or gifts.
A Ray typically takes notice on what matters to the people they love, and they provide them with the love they feel like they deserve. It is usually the ones that go above and beyond.
Examples that you might’ve missed :
That person who drops off a coffee for you
You tell them they are having a bad day, and they text or call you right away
Those people that never run out of good things to say about you. To you and behind your back
That friend that just offers to watch movies with you all night.. Because your “presence” is the gift
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3. They listen to your every word
We have all been in contact with those people that remember what you told them 1001 years ago. A Ray will hang on to your every word and truly, soak in what you are saying. You can tell because they light up when you light up about something you love. They offer comfort when you are sad.
You can tell this person is a Ray because they often ask you questions and wait for the full answer.
4. They love first, judge last
A Ray welcomes new people with open arms. You might see them asking all their questions, and looking rather engaged in conversations with someone new.
They make friends so fast because they love first. A Ray makes their judgments on someone only after they’ve spent time getting to know them on a deeper level.
A Ray will always give someone the benefit of the doubt, or wait a few times of meeting someone new before making the decision whether or not they click.
This is why you often see all different types of people with a Ray. They accept all so they are loved by all.
5. They are morning people
I’ve found that 9/10 times, Rays’ usually wake up before the average person and get their days started. They usually show up with energy at an all time high, coffee in hand, looking ready and prepared for the day.
6. They are ambitious
If you’ve met a Ray, you know that they always have goals set in their minds. A Ray always has a big time goal they are trying to obtain or they are currently working towards something that would better themselves and the life they live.
I believe this is also what makes them so captivating. A Ray always has something they are working towards.
Not just financially, but something that means a lot to them. Maybe they are saving up for a big trip, or they are planning a surprise visit for a family member. They could be busy from school and work or they are just starting a new project they are excited about.
It’s clear that Rays often have something they are looking forward to. When they light up, you light up.
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7. They love to see others succeed
As a result, Rays are ALWAYS encouraging and supportive of others’ success. They see their friends and families good fortune as their good fortune.
Oftentimes, you will see a Ray light up and get just as excited as you are about achieving a goal. It makes you want to run to them to share the great news.
8. They aren't afraid to laugh at themselves
You will see a Ray often not afraid to act silly or laugh at their own mistakes.
They know that no one is perfect so they don’t hold others or themselves to an impossible standard.
9. They will always be there for you
This brings me to my last point of, a Ray is always there for you even if you don’t see them. You will always know deep in your heart that they are there for you, proud of you, and rooting you on throughout your life because that’s just who they are as a person.
Doesn’t matter how near or far they are. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t talked for ages or if you are busy in life – A Ray will always shine for you.
A Rays light will always shine big, bright, and all the time.
Have you ever been around a ‘Ray’? Do you strive to be the light in someone else’s life?
Comment below – tell me about the ray of sunshine in your life. 🙂
This is such a lovely post! This really made me think about what you were saying. Thank you for this info, a great read!
Amber – The Unpredicted Page
I appreciate that, a lot, Amber! Keep shining!!
I LOVED reading this! (And it makes me miss my ‘Ray’, ha) Great post.
aww, thank you SO much Simone! aha I agree! Writing this made me miss my ‘Ray’ too! aha I hope you get to see them soon! <3
Pam ~ you are the Ray that you describe; not just for me, but for your partner, your family, our family and I’m sure for many of your friends!! You are a bright shining RAY and I am grateful to have you in our lives!!!
This post is dedicated to you <3 Thank you for being such a bright light in my life. You honestly shine so bright and strong for me - I am so inspired by you.
I love meeting people that exhibit these characteristics. We could all use a little more kindness in our lives. With social interactions being less frequent, every smile and kind word becomes all the more meaningful to people. Thanks for sharing Pam.
Me too, Josh! These people are brilliant -and to be honest – we ALL are these people. I tried to hint at the fact that we all have this light inside of us!
You’re so right – I too am missing a lot of these people. We will get there soon, Josh! I know we will 🙂 Thank you so much!
Love it. Such a great motivational powerful post.
Thank you so so much, Kim!
This is EXACTLY the type of person I strive to be every day of my life <3 I'm not all the way there yet in some ways, but I'm working hard at it 🙂