Learn how to destroy your self doubt and achieve your goals
Self doubt is a tricky thing. It’s something that every single person at some point has to deal with in their life. No matter how confident someone may appear – They have probably struggled with this at some point in their lives.
As common as it is, it’s important to know how to combat it in so that you can progress forward in your life rather than stay in the same spot.
What is self-doubt?
It comes in many different forms. Sometimes it’s easy to spot, and other times it creeps in and sits there at the back of our self conscious unknowingly. It’s sneaky, but it is possible to detect it and work to fight against it.
Examples of ways you could be self-doubting yourself:
Examples of ways you could be self-doubting yourself:
- Not finishing something you start
- Cancelling plans
- Making excuses
Write down your goals and break it up
I am a big believer in writing down your goals. Write down what you want THE most. Do not hold yourself back at all.
Let’s say that money is NOT an option. What is it that you truly truly want in your life? Break it down between career path, mentally, physically, material wise. Break every single aspect down so that you can get a clear vision on what you want. In order to begin, you must know what you are working hard for.
I go more into depth on goal setting writing in my blog post Manifest your goals into your dream life and I am also working of a FREE goal template – get yours here:
Tell me some of your goals!
By next year, what do you want accomplished in your career?
Financially? Education? Friends and family life?
What do you want it all to look like by the end of this year?
Self doubt = Fear of the unknown
First and foremost, you need to IDENTIFY what you are scared about. What is it that you’re trying to achieve and what scares you most about it?
Is it the fear of failing?
The fear of not doing well enough compared to others?
Fear of judgement from others?
What is it that you fear most about your goal? You have to identify those inner voices beforehand to truly understand where that doubt is coming from.
Swap those negative thoughts with some positive affirmations!
As you may already have realized – inner voices are not always so nice. They can say nasty, untrue things that can distort our view on ourselves and can have an impact on our goals. It’s up to us to tune in, choose BETTER more serving words to change our view and take back our inner voice!
How to use affirmations:
An Affirmation is the act of affirming a positive and encouraging statement The act of repeating affirmations helps with positively changing your mindset. It can be challenging at first and even a little bit uncomfortable but they WORK.
Start out by picking one or two that really speak to you. Pick one that combats against a negative thought that you had identified – see how that came into play?
Repeat this affirmation every morning, right when you wake up. Then do it twice a day. Soon, you’ll do it without even thinking about doing it.
Some of my most favourite affirmations that you can try:
“I am capable”
- “I attract positivity into my life”
- “Today will be a great day”
- “I am proud of the person who I am becoming”
- “I have the power to create what I want in my life”
Fine tune that goal list of yours by with some action planning!
Kick those self doubting voice out by every day doing one thing that proves them WRONG.
Take that goal list and see if you can do something that moves you a little closer to achieving them.
Manifestation and creating the life you wish to live is huge to me. Check out how I manifest what I want to attract into my life under the category, manifestation.
Self reflection is KEY
Take a moment every day to go over what you’ve accomplished this far into your life.
You do A LOT every single day. It might not feel like that some days, but you do.
It’s important to your subconscious to realize this and really take a moment to take it all in. You’re doing great. You’re doing what needs to be done for YOU and that’s what’s important in life.
“I am trusting that I am becoming more of my truest self every single day”
Self doubt is absolutely natural and it happens to absolutely everybody at some point in time.
If you want to learn new ways to destroy self doubt in order to progress and achieve your goals in life, you must learn to :
- Identify what fears you have / what are the inner voices that are holding you back
- Work to battle those voices using affirmations
- create an action plan to guide yourself on the path of where you want to go
- Reflect and congratulate yourself for working towards being the best you
Leave comment down below as I would love to hear about your take on this article.
Let me know if you use any of these tactics or you have your own way of destroying your self doubt!
Let’s Connect 🙂
I love using affirmations to help remove those feelings of self doubts and change our way of thinking.
Affirmations are so so great, and I completely agree ! It’s so cool to see your mindset shift after you use them for periods of time! Thanks so much, Leeandra !
S. K. Nijjar says
Great post Pam! It’s so true that fear holds us back in life. It’s hard to overcome but once you do, it is a lot easier reaching your goals. Thanks for sharing. ?
I fight with being a perfectionist. It’s not always a good thing cos you are constantly trying to improve (eg: an art piece/diy to sell) that is already not too bad. I ponder over it so much that I end up not using that art to sell cos I feel it ain’t good enough. That too after wasting so much time and thoughts into it! Its a serious problem.
Oh, don’t I understand that. It’s such a paradox – isn’t it? I want it to be perfect but in return it keeps me from doing the very thing I want to do the most! It’s not fair! I gotcha girl, and I hope some of these tips you can try and activate to try and shift those thoughts and make a difference ! I know you’ve got this.
Hey Pam, I am working on my personal growth and this post is so insightful! I love it and the layout of your blog is amazing! Great job I will continue reading your other articles 🙂
sabrina that is so awesome! I absolutely love personal growth as well so that means a lot to me! And YAY, wow thank you! I really really appreciate that – I just underwent a huge blog layout change so that’s wonderful to hear! Thank you SO much!
Wendy Bayne says
You know me from twitter Pam and that I am not a millenial (i’m a boomer don’t tell anyone). If I had you as friend back in the 70’s I might not have had to make so many U turns in my life. For a young lady you have your head screwed on right and I applaud your wish to help others avoid costly mistakes both personal and professional. reading through her is like a walk in Wonderland. I’ll be peeking in from time to time. Take care and keep on being you.
Wow, Wendy, what sweet sweet words you shared with me today. I am so very touched and I feel so very lucky to have gotten into contact with you. Thank you SO much for reaching out to me and reading my work today. You have such a beautiful heart – beautiful soul – and I am forever thankful.
Keep in touch! You keep being you, too!
I love your idea for writing down goals! I am a toddler teacher and aspiring Life Skills Support teacher and have all of my career goals written down on a list. I have all of the job positions I want to pursue, places I want to work at, and credentials I want to receive on the list. This definitely makes more excited and work even harder towards pursuing my dreams. I look into information about these goals too through research and write down the details, which has helped my motivation to pursue my career path goals.
YES, Emily ! That’s such a great system and I stand by doing that too ! So wonderful ! Thank you so much for sharing!